Strawberry Letter

Date: 07/10/2007Subject: Why marry for a 3rd time...I've been dating a lovely lady for about a year now. I have been married 2 times before and have 2 wonderful kids. She has a child from a previous marriage. We have good times together and I let her know that she is my woman and I'm her man. Here's the problem. Now she wants to get married. At this point in my life, I'm against marriage. I just do not see the need. It's obvious neither one of us got it right the 1st time and I didn't get it right the second time, so what's the purpose? The 1st time you think you are in love and say,,,Till death do us part,,,WRONG. 2nd time you think you are in love and say,,,Till death do us part,,,WRONG AGAIN. I like my life the way it is. She has asked me how I felt about marriage and I told her, maybe when I'm old, in my 60s. I'm in my early 40s now. I'm sure this wasn't the answer she wanted to hear. I would hate to lose this woman, because she's a good woman and I'm a good man, but I don't want to be married again. I've never understood why people get married 3,4,5 times. It can't be for love each and every time and you thinking,,,she's the one. You/we have thought that the 1st 2 were the ones. She thought her 1st one was the one. I don't want to stop seeing her, but I have to let her know that I don't want to waste her time, if it's marriage she's looking for. Am I destined to lose this woman? Good, hard working, no motive, females are hard to find right now. I'm doing very well financially.(not Steve Harvey money, but pretty good) I have a nice, big home, a 7 series 2006 BMW and a truck. I have a problem when women come to my home and instantly think they can give it a woman's touch and ease up in the crib. She hasn't done that or maybe she just so subtle about it, I haven't noticed. What should I do? Signed,,,Not trying to be married a 3rd time, but don't want to lose.